Hey, I am Amelie. Welcome on my website.
With the rise in spiritual and healing practices, I found faith and I lost it to find myself again. With my new blog, I share my healing and spiritual journey, navigating being a gender-based violence prevention specialist and a healer. Don't ask me why these go together!
“It is our choices that make us who we are.” – Corrag, by Susan Fletcher
Where Do Our Beliefs Come From?
Actions and behaviours are choices we make every day based on our values, empowering and limiting beliefs. But where do our values and beliefs come from? – Childhood. We grow up in a family, a community, and a country that define our culture.
While a country gives us written rules – laws – a community and a family give us social norms: unwritten rules of behaviour or behavioural expectations. These norms are powerful, more than we often realise. Some are family-based, others cultural, religious, or community-based. That is where our “limiting beliefs” come from.
The Tension Between the Collective and the Individual
Social and family norms are meant to mould us into respected members of the community. But these norms can also be demanding, pushing us to go against our true heart’s desires. It's the tension between the collective and the individual.
You are only human
One of the things that strikes me these days in the healing space is the vilification of our limiting beliefs, our mind, and our ego.
Before I speak about what the heart and soul can do to support your healing journey, I want to emphasize how important it is to un-shame yourself.
There is no shame.
You did nothing wrong by having limiting beliefs, by overthinking, or by having fear-based, ego-driven thoughts and behaviours. You are human. You are normal. Welcome to being human.
Let’s all be vulnerable about it: we have all done wrong by some people. We have hurt others. We have made decisions based on fear. We’ve listened to the ego when it wanted to protect us by keeping us small. We’ve avoided daring choices. We’ve ignored powerful shadow qualities like anger or shrewdness when we might have needed them. We’ve gossiped. We’ve judged.
Healers, coaches, and anyone drawn to the helping professions are all works in progress. And yet, people entrust us with their deepest pain, their stories, and their hopes. That’s a responsibility that demands more than just good intentions and impressive modalities.
When I first discovered my psychic abilities, I felt so much power by being a messenger between worlds. Later, in my 30s, coaching and family constellation work gave me that buzz again: “Wow, I can really help people.” But beneath that feeling was something bigger—an eagerness to help that I now recognize as the saviour complex.
This isn’t just my story. This is a pattern. And I am sure you played some parts in this story as well.
The Saviour Complex: Good Intentions, Twisted Roots
It often starts in childhood. You were the one who held it all together, made sure the adults were okay, ensured peace by keeping your needs under the carpet
On Being Human: Imperfect, Compassionate, and Ever-Evolving
Being human, to me, means practicing compassion with myself and others and having a deep sense of social and racial justice, while acknowledging that I can't be perfect at it and that I can't be everything to everyone. I am working on my savior syndrome (a story for another day). It means striving to be a better person—though, I admit, I sometimes put too much pressure on myself. Do you ever feel that way too? After all, we are flawed by design.
Life taught me early on that love can be conditional and that injustice is woven into our world. Most people experience injustices based on gender, race, nationality, or economic status. In this blog, I’ll acknowledge these realities while also recognizing the privileges life has given me.
First, I want to say that I haven’t studied chakras in details with any teacher. My experience with them is through my own healing and the healing of my clients, as well as self-study. This article is based on my own experience only, I do not hold the truth, far from it. I invite you to do your own research and to explore your own meaning.
Chakras are energy centres within your body. This terminology is borrowed from the early traditions of Hinduism, mainly through the expansion of yoga practices around the world. In the pre-Christian cultures it was called a seal. “Various Christian mystics refer to the chakras; for example, St. Theresa of Avila, the medieval Spanish mystic, called the chakras ‘the interior castles’. During meditation she went into what she called ‘the seventh mansion’ ”.
I don’t believe chakras are 100% “blocked” or open at any time. I have experienced my energy centres being in different states over time, never 100% blocked or flowing at any time. To me, the state of my chakras reflects the complexity of my inner world. I am a complex and multiple human being, so are my chakras. They support us to connect to our inner world and to understand where we may be out of alignment. Alignment is also never a black and white situation, it is complex.
I have been a medium for 20 years, but the reason I got interested in studying life coaching (with Kuunganisha training) is that I felt I was missing some tools to support my clients to heal, move forward in life and eventually get better; I realized they were all fighting internal battles (and so was I) and I really wanted to help.
As a teenager, I had severe backpain, I would see massage therapists and traditional healer, as much as they would address the symptoms and relieve my pain, the pain would come back eventually. Then I consulted an osteopath who taught me how to stand, walk and sit with proper posture so that my upper back didn’t have to compensate the lack of strength of my core. This is what healed me: it was the knowledge to address the problem at the source. This is the same as the difference between healers who relieve your pain or channel important messages and healers who do the same AND teach you the know-how.